Yes you heard correctly. When you hear or see the word job or interview in the same sentence it can be a little intimidating for anyone. When you go to interview for a position you are desiring, body language is VERY important. So important that, if you do not handle your nonverbal communication appropriately, it can very well cost you the job.
Some of the simplest actions truly make a difference.
- Sit up tall and straight
- No gum chewing, in fact no gum at all
- Give a firm hand shake
- Be polite and considerate
- My favorite —>Be Confident!
Key factors such as those listed above, you should know, and if you don’t its okay, but remember them!
1. One might ask what is body language exactly. Body language is one of the main ways we communicate. People can see others emotions and actions through ways other than words. Thanks to Alex Rudloff’s blog post “A Quick Guide to Body Language, I took many key points that I found extremely helpful and interesting when it comes to body language and interviewing.
How to Read Body Language
Here is a handy list of body language signs. Given the proper context, these nonverbal cues can help you with interpreting body language.
Examples of Body Language
Body hunched – low confidence
Clenched fists – aggression
Crossed arms – shut off, uncomfortable
Dragging feet – lethargy
Dropped shoulders – lethargy or weariness
Fidgeting with objects, hands – nervous
Hands behind head – arrogance, superiority
Hands on hips – in defiance
Hands on table – in agreement
Head down – timidity
Head rested on hand – bored, disinterested
Leaning away – discomfort with the situation
Leaning in closer – interest, comfortable
Looking at watch – boredom
Looking away to the left – lying
Messaging temples – anxiety
Nodding – interest, agreement or understanding
No eye contact – lack of confidence, lying
Shaking of legs – a sign of stress
“Shifty” eyes – nervousness
Stroking of chin – thinking, in thought
Tapping foot – impatient or nervous
Wiping hands on clothes – nervousness
“There are different body language expectations for different circumstances. On a job interview, you want to appear calm, cool and collected. You want to come across as confident and in control. You do not want to come across as creepy. Prolonged eye contact, close talking — these may be appropriate on an intimate date, but not in a job interview!”
Tips to help improve your body language:
- Smile and laugh – Laughter is contagious, it will also help put you in a positive mood. Your body language will naturally improve because of it.
- Slow down, breathe regularly – Nothing will stress you out more than moving at full speeds. Don’t walk fast, don’t talk fast and remember to breathe. Not only will this help calm you down, it’ll calm down the people around you who pick up on stressful vibes.
- Use your body with purpose – No fidgeting and keep your hands out of your pockets. Don’t be afraid to take up a little space. Show you are comfortable in the situation, not put-up-your-feet comfortable, but that you are in control and unafraid. Use your hands to expand on points or call attention to important statements.
- Hold objects by your side – If you have a drink in hand, keep it to your side, not in front of your chest. Holding your drink in front of your chest can express the same feelings as if you were standing with your arms crossed. Relax.
- Show your interest – Nod occasionally to let the person you are interacting with know that you are listening and are in agreement. Leaning in is another way to show your interest, just be careful not to lean in to soon or to often, or you may creep them out.
- Eye contact is powerful – Make eye contact with the people you are talking to, just don’t stare. Breaking eye contact downward is generally more positive than breaking eye contact to the sides. If you have trouble looking people in the eye, try looking at their nose instead. They won’t be able to tell.
- Mirror – This is a tough one because it can be hard to pull off. When two people have strong rapport, their actions and body language will naturally start to mirror each other. If you can, you can stimulate this by consciously doing it. Just be careful, as if you get it wrong, it will be really awkward for everyone.
2. Click here for an interesting outline on what to do with your body during an interview. Frank van Marwijk, answers questions as easy as, “what do I do with my hands?” to “what type of person am I?”
3. If you are still unsure about the interview process, Mike Aguilera, communications specialist has some tips and techniques that might help the future job seeker.